No Sex Drive :(
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No Sex Drive :(
I'm madly in love with my new bf, yet, I have absolutely no sex drive...whatsoever.
We are madly in love and I still get butterflies every time I see him. He's so hot... 6 ft, 185 lbs, athletic, dark hair, dark eyes, Italian descent. I love everything about him.
Here's the problem...I have no sex drive. It's not that I don't desire sex from him. He's good at what he does, but I would be content if we never had sex (of course, I have sex with him to please him and I like making him happy)
I even thought that I wouldn't mind him having sex with another girl so I wouldn't have to. (Though I know we'd both never really allow that!)
I don't find myself comparing him to anybody sexually. I just don't have a desire for sex.
Is there something wrong with me?
Nothing turns me on!!
We are madly in love and I still get butterflies every time I see him. He's so hot... 6 ft, 185 lbs, athletic, dark hair, dark eyes, Italian descent. I love everything about him.
Here's the problem...I have no sex drive. It's not that I don't desire sex from him. He's good at what he does, but I would be content if we never had sex (of course, I have sex with him to please him and I like making him happy)
I even thought that I wouldn't mind him having sex with another girl so I wouldn't have to. (Though I know we'd both never really allow that!)
I don't find myself comparing him to anybody sexually. I just don't have a desire for sex.
Is there something wrong with me?
Nothing turns me on!!
Erika69- Posts : 4
Join date : 2009-10-20
Age : 42
Location : USA
Hi Erika
Is he any good in bed? Has he brought you to orgasm?
A lot of women who don't have sex don't like it simply because their partner doesn't make it pleasurable enough for them!
That's the simplest answer. There could also be something medically wrong, or you just naturally have a low drive. Been to a doc?
A lot of women who don't have sex don't like it simply because their partner doesn't make it pleasurable enough for them!
That's the simplest answer. There could also be something medically wrong, or you just naturally have a low drive. Been to a doc?
Emma- Posts : 3
Join date : 2009-10-26
Re: No Sex Drive :(
Are you viewing sex as something you HAVE to do? Is it a chore to you?
You say he is good at what he does... but that doesn't turn you on, correct?
Have you tried being sensual with him without actually going through the whole act of sex? If sex isn't expected, do you feel you would enjoy it more? When your boyfriend wants to get intimate, what goes through your head?
What about steamy scenes in movies or books... Do you feel anything from them?
A lot of questions, I know, but maybe we could help and give you ideas...
As Emma said above, maybe going to the Dr too. Check your testosterone levels...
You say he is good at what he does... but that doesn't turn you on, correct?
Have you tried being sensual with him without actually going through the whole act of sex? If sex isn't expected, do you feel you would enjoy it more? When your boyfriend wants to get intimate, what goes through your head?
What about steamy scenes in movies or books... Do you feel anything from them?
A lot of questions, I know, but maybe we could help and give you ideas...
As Emma said above, maybe going to the Dr too. Check your testosterone levels...
finalStart2- Posts : 5
Join date : 2009-12-24
Location : Belgium
Re: No Sex Drive :(
Yeah, I hate to admit that sex is really a routine chore for me. For real, I'd rather do dishes than have sex any day. He makes me feel good and he tries so hard. He doesn't know that I have no desire to have intercourse. I don't want to make him feel bad!!
When my boyfriend wants to get intimate, it makes me feel good and special.
When I watch steamy movies, I feel more like "I wish I had that desire!". And I can get turned on by them, but not in a way where I want to jump in to intercourse with my boyfriend.
I don't know if any of this is making sense. The more I answer these questions, the more I feel like there is defintiely something wrong or abnormal about me.
When my boyfriend wants to get intimate, it makes me feel good and special.
When I watch steamy movies, I feel more like "I wish I had that desire!". And I can get turned on by them, but not in a way where I want to jump in to intercourse with my boyfriend.
I don't know if any of this is making sense. The more I answer these questions, the more I feel like there is defintiely something wrong or abnormal about me.
Erika69- Posts : 4
Join date : 2009-10-20
Age : 42
Location : USA
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