Erectile Dysfunction?

If a male gets turned on by viewing pornography, engaging on on-line sex, phone sex and has the capacity to get an erection, and reach an orgasm from doing these things, why is he having a difficult time getting turned on by a female whom supposingly he loves?

He is blaming me for the way I kiss him and the way I hug him for his inability to engage in sexual intercourse which is a total turn off to me distancing me more from him sexually.

What is really going on with this man who seems to be turned on by porn, phone sex, online sex, but cannot be turned on by me.

Yeah sometimes I would be like that, only not that often anymore. I have found myself becoming arroused after watching pornography, but yet I know I couldnt take these thoughts to the bedroom. its not that im a porn addict not at all, I just find it nearly impossible to be naturally aroused.
Maybe you should try to get him counseling or something.
Good luck

There is a so called "be what he likes you to be". Well, if your partner is easily turned on with porns and other sexual activities online or via phone and not to you, then probably he wants you to do something that will make him want you more that what he gets from online porn. You can experiment sex with him, try other sexy lingerie that he has never seen you wearing before. Try a different perfume that will him really "on" and make you feel seductive. Try to put a little make up when you're ready to make love with him and play a little wild for him. This could probably change his mind and not stay on the phone or computer just to make out.

Sometimes, being boring on bed can affect your sex life.

I think your man is porn addicted. With porn there is always something more and it gets you hooked. There is no reality that can compare to porn. Thats why its so addictive to men. You can't duplicate what he watches nore should you even try.
If your a prude in the bedroom you know it and can correct it.
But this is most likly not the case. Get his butt to therapy ASAP if you don't he won't and it will only get worse.
If you love him get him help
Believe me He is not the only guy who has become hooked on porn.

A lot of good advise here but I just want to add, I don't feel your husband is being honest about the real underlying problems in his sex life.

My advice:

1. Watch the porn movie with him and see what turn him on.

2. Get a second phone line and listen to the girl or machine on the phone sex.

3. Tell him you will try to do those things he likes but he should STOP watching porn or phone sex. It's addictive. You can't keep up.

Bottom line, he want you do him like a 21st century woman to turn him on.

If you're not comfortable doing those stuff, get few 100mg viagra and let him take it with hot tea 20 minutes before sex. The pill will jack him up automatically. He will come looking for you with his pants pumped up.